Monday, April 19, 2010

More Self-Love, Please!!

That's right, Lovelies!! YOU are BEAUTIFUL!! Inside and out!

I've been quite hard on myself lately. Not self hate, but definitely not self love!
I feel like it is very difficult to accept myself all the time when there are reminders everywhere that I may be sub-par in comparison with the rest of the world.  And I know that this way of thinking comes from societies view on body image and the impossible expectations on women to be perfect. 

We all deserve that deep and unconditional love that only we can give ourselves!! We deserve to look in the mirror everyday and smile because we see all of the loveliness and beauty! And we deserve to know that when we apply beauty products to our bodies, it is to accent what is already there. 

I think that this would be a very appropriate tattoo for me (if I wasn't terrified of them!) along with a cluster of little stars behind my ear!! I think we all need a constant reminder to continue loving ourselves through all the ups and downs in life. When things start to get rough in my life, I am the first person to take on all the blame and abuse. I know that I shouldn't take out all of my problems on others so I often take them out on myself instead. Which is not a good way of dealing with life. I have struggled through the years with a lot of pain and anger. While growing up, I was abused both emotionally and physically. It was very difficult to deal with and I turned inward.  I blamed myself for everything that had happened to me. When I was 11, I started pulling my hair out, slapping myself, and scratching my skin with my own fingernails.  I have never tried to cut myself, but I truly understand why people feel the need to do things like that to themselves.  There is so much pain inside you and you have no way to make it go away. While everyone has their own personal reasons, mine was to punish myself for not being good enough. I developed this mindset that if I was good enough and did everything I was supposed to, bad things wouldn't happen to me. 
 Now that I am older, I have come a long way in my healing process. I feel that my experiences have made me the person that I am today. I feel very strong and courageous. And I am also very empathetic to the emotions of others. I no longer feel the need to hurt myself. I have developed coping mechanisms which help me when I start to feel self-hatred. It's not always easy and I'm definitely not completely healed, but I feel like I have come such a long way.  

I just want to constantly remind you to love yourself, even when you feel like you aren't deserving of any love. Even when you fall down and feel like you can't get back up. Even if you look in the mirror and see only flaws. Love yourself!
You are an incredible being in this world! An original creation! You were made to achieve impossible feats and to create joy, love, and hope! YOU are so AMAZING!! Embrace that person with open arms and love that person with a huge heart!! 

Sending you all of my positive thoughts and wishing you a WONDERFUL WEEK!!

p.s. One of the books that really helped me in my healing process was SARK's Transformation Soup! I love all of her books, but this one really helped me. If you are looking for something more to help you in your own healing process, consider this book!

8 Quirky Comments:

Bitsy said...

Hey, I just wrote a post and I think i lost it. I just wanted to say how lovely it was to just read your post and what lovely things for you to say. I dont like to talk about how I feel so much especially not on here for everyone to see and you dont wanna bring people down but sometimes you are hurting or sad or a bit meh, you know,and its nice to hear such nice things when you are feeling shitty. So lovely. I just thought I would say. Thank you for your lovely posts which I love to read whenever you write them. Stay strong and know you are a little ray of light in a sometimes dark world, to me anyway, and i think thats lovely. Thanks xxx

Luana said...

Absolutely lovely. I've been quite hard on myself lately as well, and honestly it doesn't help one bit. It seems like the only worthwile way to be is positive and loving towards oneself, and that's the way I'm aiming to be from now on!

Leah said...

What an incredible journey... and I'm happy that you regarded the negatives as learning experiences. Now you are stronger, wiser and happier.

Have a great week! xoxo

Bossy Betty said...

Love it!! This is something we all need to be reminded of since the world can be pretty hard on us!

10Yen said...

*hugs* this is a good reminder to all of us. Even if we are "lost little souls" thank you.

Lucy said...

Lovely, adorable post. Definitely what I needed, so thank you. Your posts are always so influencial :)


Kylie said...

I've always wanted a tattoo that says "Shine"

I'm happy to stumble upon your blog, my dear, it's lovely.

WonderGoon said...

Hello.Your post was, as others have said, lovely and spoke to me on a visceral level. We all need to be accepted for who and what we are. This is true across all gender, racial, and socio-economic lines.

I also have a problem with self-acceptance. My personal spiritual belief is based, almost completely, on that self-honesty. If I can't be honest with myself, who can I be honest with?

I want to thank you for the uplifting post and the sharp reminder to take care of me; to give myself a little hug now and again.

Thank you.

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